Does a relationship provide you with safety, love, connection, and fulfillment? Yes, it does, but can it compensate for your sense of self perhaps not. A dilemma people often face in life is how to retain their individuality while still being in a relationship. Often people after years of marriage realize that they have lost themselves, while sacrificing their needs for others, on the contrary, some people feel like they are entitled to get all their needs fulfilled through another person. So how do you bring a balance?